The Way of the Steady Mother
Step into a journey that will be one of the major turning points in your parenting.
I know how hard it is when worry and anxiety have been running your parenting.
This is a coaching journey where you quieten the agitation, finally move beyond your old patterns, and stop living your life on eggshells.
Where you feel yourself on steady ground as a mother.
Where you can create an environment for communication and connection with your teenager or young adult child.
Welcome to the Way of the Steady Mother
Three Truths
1 The way you're parenting isn't working anymore.
Not with this kid, not in this situation. Maybe there’s more yelling or maybe there’s more silence... but you aren’t making any real progress in your relationship. You’re exhausted and out of ideas.
2 You can't go on like this, feeling this stressed and worried about them. You can't stand more of the same fiery arguments and/or ice-cold standoffs. You're not willing to just let the distance between you grow and grow and grow until…
3 Your relationship isn’t going to change until you change. This isn’t just some kind of a phase to cross your fingers and just wait out. You can see how seriously it’s damaging your relationship and where it might be taking you - you know you have to take action.
What I can tell you for certain:
When you do the inner work to change how you respond, it changes how they respond.
Your communication becomes more relaxed, more honest and more accepting.
Your relationship begins to shift in a new direction.
This isn’t scripts and strategies, it’s personal growth that changes your relationship.
"We were barely talking and when we did, it usually ended in yelling and slamming doors. I felt like I was falling backwards as a parent but within weeks of starting this journey with you, I was already getting my footing. Now I give myself time to say exactly what I mean. It has changed how we treat each other and that makes my heart sing every day."
F Glenn, Edmonton
"Honestly, I was transformed. I learned how to embody my own breath and be patient and present. And the change in me has changed a lot between my daughter and I. As I loosened my grip and stopped trying to control her, she started telling me more about what she’s thinking and what’s going on in her life. Our hearts are softening and reconnecting."
Marthe, Norway
There is another way.
Although things feel messed up right now, I promise you that there is a way through this for you.
You can develop a new level of steadiness in yourself.
Instead of overwhelmed and overreactive, you’re grounded and clear.
You can ride the waves of big emotions without being pulled under.
You can support them without taking on what’s not yours to carry.
You can communicate in ways that have both of you feeling seen and understood.
You can regain your lightheartedness and actually enjoy hanging out with each other again.
You can develop a way of parenting that's aligned with who you are and the mother you want to be. I want you to feel that kind of peace deep down inside.
How It Works
Four months.
Fully private.
Fully supported.
This is not a program you move through alone. This is a skillful, light-filled space in which you are held the most you have ever been held.
We walk through this side by side, meeting online every two weeks. In between, you engage in custom-designed practices and feel yourself shifting toward more steadiness, more intentional words and actions, and more grace to be with it all.
This is for the mother who...
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Feels like she's drowning in worry.
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Lies awake trying to come up with new strategies but, no matter what she tries, she and her kid end up at the same impasse.
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Is done with surface-level work, parenting scripts and one-size-fits-all prescriptions that don't touch the real issue.
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Is done letting anxiety run her parenting and sink her relationship with her teen/ young adult.
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Knows she has it within her to parent calmly and clearly, and is finally ready to find out how to do it.
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Longs for an honest, close relationship with your kid that will stand the test of time.
What Changes in 16 Weeks
The anxiety quietens down.
Your nervous system finally feels safe. Your shoulders slide down, your gut unclenches and you can breathe. You have access your calm center, even when your kid is stressed out, acting out or shutting you out. There’s a new steadiness in you and they feel it.
The thoughts stop spinning.
You’re not constantly rehashing the past or preparing for worst case scenarios. There’s space for you to think and you make parenting choices you're content with.
Your emotions flow in a good way.
They aren’t bottled up festering inside you and they’re not spewing out all over the place. You can feel what you’re feeling and still stay steady in the tough discussions.
You say what you need to say.
You make requests, express your opinions and uphold your boundaries. Your needs are finally factored into the equation. Communications are the clearest they’ve ever been.
You see them differently.
You’re more curious. You listen without jumping to conclusions, taking it personally or trying to gain control. You feel understanding growing.
Your confidence grows exponentially.
You’re grounded in how you want to be parenting; it’s your guiding light every day. You can feel your inner knowing rooted inside you. You barely recognize yourself and, yet somehow, this grounded version of you feels more truly you.
What’s included:
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8 coaching sessions over 4 months.
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A map with clearly outlined objectives you wholeheartedly want to work toward.
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Instructions for at least 6 customized practices that help you grow in the places that are most important for you.
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A map to guide you forward after your coaching program.
$1200
* Can be paid in three instalments.
* If this price is prohibitive, please note that I offer a number of discounted spots for people with limited means. Please contact me for details.
"I'm finally parenting in a way that feels really right. Lori helped me find my calm center and I learned how to parent from that place... The cold resentment between my daughter and I is finally melting and we’re building a gentler relationship together. That’s worth more than gold to me! Lori is a kind and wise guide and I’m recommending her to every mother I know."
Benita Lang, Toronto
"I felt desperate for so long. I was living on high alert, always getting triggered by my daughter's anxiety and trying to fix everything for her - and failing at it. Now I know how to keep my mind and body calm when she panics, and that supports her in a much better way. When I'm calm, we understand each other so much better. It’s such a huge relief."
Tami, New York
In Our Time Together
You will be deeply seen and heard in all your perfectly imperfect humanness.
You will finally deactivate those old tension triggers and clear the way for more grounded parenting.
You will receive expert support as you practice, struggle and try again, until you feel your new way of parenting alive and rooted in you.
You will be guided to new levels of self-awareness, self-compassion and calm.
You will create the ease and connection in your relationship that, so far, you’ve only been able to dream about.
You will be held in sacred space and mark the milestones of your journey in deeply meaningful ways.
You will amaze yourself.
Growing as a mother is both beautiful and messy,
graceful and awkward,
sacred and earthly.
I walk right beside you through the wonderful a-ha moments and the inevitable stumbles with expertise and deep care for you and your transformation.
Expect to go away embodying new ways of being that will profoundly alter how you parent.
We Begin with a
Free Chemistry Call
This is your chance to feel what it'd be like to work with me (and vice versa). We'll get to know each other a little. You can tell me about what’s bringing you to coaching and I'll answer your questions.
We both know that I may or may not be the right coach for you. The only way we can find out is to talk and see what kind of a connection we have.
You may know right away if it feels like a good fit or you may want to go away and think about it – either way is ok with me.
I warmly offer these 45 minutes to focus on you and how it's really going in this stage of your motherhood journey.