The Way of the Steady Mother
Stop stress and worry from running your parenting.
This is where you quieten the agitation inside you, move beyond old patterns, and stop living your life on eggshells.
Where you feel yourself on steady ground as a mother.
Where you create the environment for open communication and real connection with your teenager or young adult child.
Where you feel more peace.
Three Truths
1 The way you're parenting isn't working anymore.
Not with this kid, not in these situations. Maybe there’s more yelling or maybe there’s more silence... You aren’t making any real progress in your relationship and you’re out of ideas.
2 You can't go on like this, feeling this stressed and worried. You can't stand more of the same fiery arguments or ice-cold standoffs. But you're also not willing to just let the wedge between you just grow and grow.
3 Your relationship isn’t going to change until you change. This isn’t the time to just cross your fingers and wait it out. You see how this is damaging your relationship and where it might be leading. You know you have to take action.
What I can tell you for certain:
When you do the inner work to change how you respond, it changes how they respond.
Your communication becomes more relaxed, more honest and more accepting.
Your relationship shifts in a new direction.
This isn’t scripts and strategies - it’s personal growth that changes your way of being in your relationship.
"We were barely talking and when we did, it usually ended in yelling and slamming doors. I felt like I was falling backwards as a parent, but within weeks of starting this journey with you, I was already getting my footing. Now I am able to say exactly what I mean. It has changed how we treat each other and that makes my heart sing every day."
F Glenn, Edmonton
“I'm noticing all the joyful moments when we share a laugh, which we wouldn’t be having if I hadn’t gotten help from Lori. I developed the ability to stay present with my daughter, even when I'm scared. It feels like someone came and opened all the curtains in my house. I can now see more and farther than I have in so many years.”
Kathy R., Yellowknife
"Honestly, I was transformed. I learned how to embody my own breath and be patient and present. The change in me has changed so much between us. As I loosened my grip and stopped trying to control her, she started telling me more about what she’s thinking and feeling and what’s going on in her life. Our hearts are softening and reconnecting."
Marthe, Norway
"Lori is a gifted guide, and always held my vision like a special star. I don't have to think about following steps anymore, I just AM calm. I enter our conversations more attuned to myself and my son says my ‘new vibe’ makes it easier for him to be honest with me. Our relationship is closer and more relaxed, the way I’d always hoped it could be.”
Monica K, Oregon City
There is another way.
I promise you that there is a way through this for you.
You can develop a new level of steadiness in yourself.
Instead of overwhelmed and overreactive, you can be grounded and clear.
You can ride the waves of big emotions without being pulled under, and support them without taking on what’s not yours to carry.
You can hold clear boundaries and communicate in ways that have both of you feeling seen and understood.
You can actually enjoy hanging out with each other again.
You can develop a way of parenting that's aligned with who you are and the mother you want to be.
Yes, you can feel that kind of peace deep down inside.
How It Works
Four months.
Fully private.
Fully supported.
This is not a program you move through alone. This is a skillful, light-filled space in which you are held the most you have ever been held.
We walk through this together, meeting online every two weeks.
And in between, you engage in custom-designed practices and feel yourself shifting toward more steadiness inside you, more intentional words and actions, and more grace to be with it all.
This is for the mother who...
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Feels like she's drowning in worry.
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Lies awake trying to come up with new strategies but, no matter what she tries, she and her kid end up at the same impasse.
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Is done with surface-level work, parenting scripts and one-size-fits-all prescriptions.
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Isn't willing to let anxiety run her parenting and sink her relationship with her teen/ young adult.
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Longs for an honest, close relationship with her big kid that will stand the test of time.
What Changes in 16 Weeks
The anxiety quietens down.
Your nervous system finally feels safe. Your shoulders slide down, your gut unclenches and you can breathe. You have access to your calm center, even when your kid is stressed out, acting out or shutting you out. There’s a new steadiness in you and they feel it.
The thoughts stop spinning.
You’re not constantly rehashing the past or preparing for worst case scenarios. There’s space for you to think and you make parenting choices that feel right.
Your emotions flow in a good way.
They aren’t bottled up festering inside you and they’re not spewing out all over the place. You can feel what you’re feeling and still stay steady in the tough discussions.
You say what you need to say.
Your needs are finally factored into the equation. You make requests, express your opinions and uphold your boundaries and communications are the clearest they’ve ever been.
You see them differently.
You’re more curious. You listen without jumping to conclusions, taking it personally or trying to gain control. You feel the understanding growing between you.
Your confidence grows exponentially.
You’re grounded in how you want to be parenting; it’s your guiding light every day. You can feel your inner knowing rooted inside you. You barely recognize yourself and, yet somehow, this version of you feels more truly you.
What’s included:
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8 coaching sessions (60-75 minutes)
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Clearly outlined objectives you wholeheartedly want to work toward
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Instructions for at least 6 customized practices that help you grow in the places that are most important for you
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A map to guide you forward after your coaching program
$1400
* I offer a number of discounted spots for people with limited means. Contact me for details.
"I'm finally parenting in a way that feels really right. Lori helped me find my calm center and learn how to parent from there... The cold resentment between my daughter and I is finally melting. We’re building a gentler relationship together and that’s worth more than gold to me! Lori is a kind and wise guide and I’m recommending her to every mother I know."
Benita Lang, Toronto
"This was an amazing experience. Really, I just wanted to be a calmer with my teenagers but I discovered a whole new part of myself. Lori was so attuned with where I am in this phase of motherhood and I could always feel her presence right beside me. I love the way I'm parenting now - and so do my kids. And the change in me feels permanent."
May H, Idaho
"I felt desperate for so long. I was living on high alert, always getting triggered by my daughter's anxiety and trying to fix everything for her - and failing at it. Now I know how to keep my mind and body calm when she panics, and that supports her in a much better way. When I'm calm, we understand each other so much better and that’s a huge relief."
Tami, New York
" I'm so proud of the work I did with Lori. I was so entangled in the distrust and never-ending fighting and I didn't know how to change it on my own. The process was gentle, gradual and perfectly tailored to me. Now there is such a peace inside me, feeling this connection between my sacred role as a mother and how I communicate with my son each day."
MLK, Monterey Ca
Growing as a mother is both beautiful and messy,
graceful and awkward,
sacred and earthly.
I walk right beside you through it all, the wonderful a-ha moments and the inevitable stumbles, with expertise and deep care for you and your transformation.
This will be a turning point in your life and reset the trajectory of your relationship.
We Begin with a
Free Chemistry Call
This is your chance to feel what it'd be like to work with me (and vice versa). We'll get to know each other a little. You can tell me about what’s bringing you to coaching and I'll answer your questions.
The way I see it, I may or may not be the right coach for you. The only way we can find out is to talk and see what kind of a connection we have. You may know right away if it feels right or you may want to go away and think about it – either way is ok with me.
I offer these 45 minutes to focus how it's really going for you in this stage of motherhood and how you'd like it to be.
I look forward to meeting you.