Hello and welcome.
Living room dancer.
When I decided to focus my coaching practice on parents of teens and young adults, I stepped into the arena of parenting coaching and, boy, was I shocked! So many half-trained helpers and millionaire ‘experts’ out there telling people how to handle their kids.
It was kind of disgusting.
A parent goes looking for help when things are rough. They cry ‘tell me what to do’ because they’re heartbroken and desperate. To me, it’s downright unethical the way they are taken advantage of and misled to believe that someone else knows better.
That’s why I’m over here, quietly helping parents sort through their thorny messes and emerge with their own way of parenting their beloved child. I think it’s more important that you understand what’s tripping your up so you can actually move past it, not just mask it temporarily with someone else’s strategies. And it’s more important that you rebuild your relationship with your kid in a way that truly works for you and them.
I've Been There
I tried to do everything right as a young parent. And, from the outside, it looked like I had it all together: homeschooling, gardening, nature, music...But behind closed doors, it was a different story.
Believe me when I tell you that I’ve seen the look on my kid’s face when I’ve yelled something completely unforgivable.
I’ve caught myself behaving more like my mother than who I am and what I believe.
I been to the harrowing edge of almost losing my teenager.
I've felt sick about screwing up the greatest privilege in my life.
Oh, how I needed a coach like me…
What I learned was that working on my own development
was the best gift I could give my kids.
Each time I caught myself yelling at my kids or berating myself for screwing up, I was actually receiving an opportunity to heal wounds from my childhood, resolve beliefs I had about myself and gradually become the kind of calm, wise, supportive mother I really wanted to be.
Everyone has their own learning path; mine has included mentoring by First Nations elders, shamanic ceremonies, qigong, a bit of therapy, goddess circles, barefoot dancing, leading rituals, walking the wheel of the year and spending a lot of time with the spirit of the land.
And the more I detangled my own stuff – my habits, my resistance, my outdated beliefs – the more I could recognize my growth edges and engage in my development. The more attuned I became with the core of who I really am, the more I could see and accept who my kids really are as their lives unfold. That’s when I felt myself really stepping into the uncharted role of being a parent to these two amazing souls.
To have a strong relationship with your kids as they grow up
and take you into all sorts of tricky situations as they find their own paths,
you need to be growing too.
Showing them what it is to live a real, beautiful, messy life.
Talking about where you get in your own way.
Walking alongside them as you both try things, mess up, learn and evolve.
Some tidbits about me:
I grew up in a small town called Horsefly. Really.
I love being in the mountains. It's the air that feels right in my lungs, my soul’s home.
I’m an Enneagram type 9w1, born on the Taurus/Gemini cusp. My bedside table holds the Rumi Oracle, a mookaite crystal and my trusty journal.
I'm an elemental space clearer, channeler and a ritual-leader (read more here).
I love teenagers and young adults. I used to be a college instructor and I continue to tutor high school students. It keeps me connected to their worldview.
If you're looking for my official bio, click here.
I've had silver hair since my late 20’s.
Why I work with parents
I care deeply about Peace. It’s not just a nice dream to me; it’s in my bones to instill harmony wherever I can.
If you gave me a soapbox, I’d tell you that I love kids in their teens and twenties, so full of potential and getting caught in so many tricky whirlpools. I have a vision in which they are all supported to find the beat of their own hearts and follow their own passions. They are encouraged by their communities to become the genuine, kind, brilliant, creative beings that our world needs.
This requires us, as parents and caregivers, to face ourselves and do the work - the good, important inner work - to be able to support them to be really shine their light. To me, this is the way to Peace, one heart and one family at a time.
If this feels like it might be just what you need right now, I'd be happy to get on a call with you to talk about your situation and answer your questions. No sales pitch, just an exploration and some practical support for you.
And if we turn out to be a good fit to work more in depth together, it would be my privilege to be of service to you as you step into your new way of parenting.