Hello and welcome.
We haven’t met yet but I think I know how you feel.
You’re a dedicated parent and your kids are pretty darn great. You are parenting consciously and lovingly and doing your best to grow alongside them.
And right now you feel scared, frustrated and heartbroken about the distance that's growing between you and your beloved child.
I've Been There
I tried really hard to do everything right as a parent. I put my heart and soul into raising my kids. And, from the outside, it looked like I had it all together: homeschooling, gardening, nature, music and art.
But behind closed doors, it was a different story.
Believe me when I tell you that I’ve seen the look on my kid’s face when I’ve yelled something unforgivable.
I’ve seen myself behaving more like my mother than who I am and what I believe.
I've been to the harrowing edge of almost losing my teenager.
I've felt sick about screwing up the most precious gift and privilege in life.
I've been exhausted, worried and desperate.
Oh, how I needed a coach like me…
What I know now
What I learned was that working on my own development was the best gift I could give my kids. My path included indigenous healing circles, shamanic ceremonies, superb friends, therapy, ecstatic dance and a lot of time connecting with the spirit of the land.
The more I attuned with the core voice within me and all of who I am, the more I could see and accept who my kids really are and the paths they are walking. I was no longer thinking I had to know it all and do everything right (as if!) and I opened to the real mystery and beauty of parenting these two special souls.
I also learned that authentic connection with my kids requires my vulnerability and authenticity. My kids don’t need me to be perfect; they need me to show them what it is to live a real, beautiful, messy life. To be talking out loud about where I get in my own way and asking questions as I feel my shifting sense of self. Letting them see me wondering, trying, making mistakes and evolving.
The other thing I now know for sure is that, when it comes to raising my kids, my presence is everything. Being really here with them – body, mind, heart and soul - in the moments of daily family life. Staying in even when it's really hard and scary and I have no idea what to do. That's where connection is built.
Do I have it all figured out? No, I’m a work in progress. And amongst the wonderings and wobbles of life, I am blessed to have true connections with my kids. Real, solid relationships that are beautiful and challenging, always growing and deepening in love.
Some tidbits about me:
I grew up in a small town called Horsefly. Really.
I love being in the mountains - it's the air that feels right in my lungs, it's my soul’s home.
I’m an Enneagram type 9w1, born on the Taurus/Gemini cusp. My bedside table holds the Rumi Oracle, a mookaite crystal and my trusty journal.
If you're looking for my official bio, click here.
I love teenagers and young adults. I used to be a college instructor and I continue to tutor and mentor high school students to stay connected to their worldview.
I've had silver hair since my late 20’s.
Why I do this
I care deeply about Peace. It’s not just a nice dream to me; it’s in my bones to instill harmony wherever I can.
If you gave me a soapbox, I’d tell you that I have a vision in which all teens are supported to find the beat of their own hearts and follow their own passions. They are encouraged by their communities to become the genuine, kind, brilliant, creative beings that our world needs.
This requires us, as parents and caregivers, to face ourselves and do the work - the good important inner work - to be able to support them to be really shine their light. To me, this is the way to Peace, one heart and one family at a time. (I’ll get down off the soapbox now.)
This work is also important to me because I clearly remember what it feels like to be a teenager and have my individuality dismissed, misunderstood and criticized. I have spent decades reconnecting to my deep knowing and reactivating my own voice. Now my work with parents gives some teens and young adults a greater sense of acceptance, permission and encouragement to be all of who they are.
I love, love, love my clients’ profound a-ha moments as they create real connection with their child. It is beyond rewarding to witness them finding that deep sense of rightness that comes when your heart, body, mind and soul are aligned in your way of parenting.
The truth is that I’m not interested in making six figures or having a big audience. I'm here to share my wisdom, groundedness, clarity, skill and compassion with parents like you - for your sake and the sake of future generations.
If this feels like it might be just what you need right now, I'd be happy to get on a call with you to talk about your situation, answer your questions and give you some practical support.
And if we turn out to be a good fit to work more in depth together, it would be my privilege to be of service to you as you step into your new way of parenting.