Hi, I'm Lori.
Mother
Moon gazer
Blueberry lover
Barefoot dancer
Energy channeler
Integral Master Coach
About You
You’ve given a lot of love and weathered many challenges. Parenting is tough and you’ve stayed in. That means a lot.
You are sincerely doing your best to raise your teenager / young adult and, despite all your efforts, you find yourself saying things like...
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I’m so stressed trying to parent this kid.
I’m being tossed around on the tidal waves of their emotions, and I never know which way is up. I'm getting triggered way too much, over-reacting and making everything worse and then laying awake regretting it. Tension is driving my parenting, and this is not the kind of parent I want to be.
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I don’t know how to navigate their mental health challenges.
They want their independence, but I see them struggling and I’m worried sick that the important things will fall through the cracks. I don't want to smother them, but I don’t know how to let go and still support them properly. They feel resentful and I feel lost.
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My kid has shut me out.
I brace myself for the silence and try to accept it, but I'm constantly distressed not knowing what’s going on for them and spinning in thoughts about losing them completely. When I try to talk to them, no matter what I say, it drives them farther away.
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I keep coming up against the same block.
When things go south, I get stuck on one thought (They’re doing this to hurt me, I have to fix this, They have to respect me, It’s my fault… ). I've tried to work through this so I can show up differently but I just can't untangle it on my own.
ABOUT YOU AND ME
Are we a fit to do this work together? Well, first, you probably share some of my some values:
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Motherhood is a privilege to me and I feel responsible for raising a generation of people that are more grounded, clear and compassionate.
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I have a sense of how my childhood and my inherited generational patterns affect how I parent and it’s important to me that I don’t pass the unhealthy ones on to my kids.
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Motherhood doesn't end. I will always be doing my inner work to evolve, building my relationships with my kids and keeping our hearts connected.
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I want to feel integrity in my parenting - a knowing deep down in my bones that I’m parenting in the way that I intend (not pulled all over the place by my emotions and inner stories) and acting from my heart and soul.
Like me, you may have gone to parenting workshops or read books, but you just didn’t feel right trying to apply generic solutions to one of the most complex and precious relationships in your life.
You’ve probably also done something like energy healing, therapy, reiki, rituals or spiritual exploration. You've had some important insights, but they didn’t quite translate into your daily interactions with your kid. (That happens to most of us.)
You're don't want a quick fix or a scripted solution. You're looking for more depth and a real change in yourself that will change your way of being in your relationship with your almost-adult child.
ABOUT ME
I’m passionate about helping anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated mothers come home to their calm.
I want them to be able to parent their teenagers and young adult children with steadiness and confidence. And build their connection.
Because I was that mother.
I was nervous, over-protective, demanding and explosive. Sure, I presented a good façade out in public but, on the inside, I was just trying to stay afloat.
Believe me when I tell you that I’ve seen the look on my child’s face when I’ve yelled something utterly unforgivable. I’ve caught myself behaving more like my mother than the woman I thought I'd grown into. I’ve been to the harrowing edge of almost losing my teenager. And for years, I laid awake thinking I was screwing up the greatest privilege of my life.
The painful truth I had to face: there was a disconnection between me and my kids, an uneasy distance across which my love for them wasn’t getting through.
Then I knew I had to change how I was parenting.
My Path to Here
My thirst for self-understanding has taken me down many roads. I studied indigenous wisdom, anthroposophy, several spiritual paths, energy healing, fengshui and qigong. I've participated in shamanic healing rituals, ecstatic dance and women's ceremonial circles.
All of these gave me ways to explore the parts of me that are prone to anxiousness and gradually led me to the deep calm of my soul - the radiant core that I learned to draw upon for steadiness in the tense moments of parenting (and all my life, really).
The more I could see and accept myself, the more I could see and accept my kids as they really are and walk alongside these two amazing souls.
Of course, I still get triggered sometimes and mess up. But one thing I’m certain about is that focusing on my self-development was the best gift I've ever given them.
So I created this path for other overwhelmed moms.
I spent years weaving together my coaching mastery, intuitive gifts and earthly wisdom to create a light-filled space in which moms quieten their nerves and cultivate the steadiness they need to build a close connection with their big kid.
As an Integral Master Coach™, I embody capacity to see both what's tripping you up and what's ready to be developed in you. My influences also include mindfulness, the Enneagram, compassionate inquiry, conscious parenting, parts work, nonviolent communication, somatic awareness and emotional intelligence.
My approach honors all of you – body, mind, heart and soul – and guides you all the way from your first insights to putting them into action in your daily life.
And as an experienced energy channeler, I receive information from your spirit guides that supports the change you've set into motion. Whatever your faith (they all point us toward love and oneness), I direct the light to release the worrying and overreacting, and clear the way for your grounded way of parenting to emerge.
This is deeply rooted, holistic coaching within a sacred container.
A Bit More About Me:
I love, love, love being in the mountains. It's the air that feels right in my lungs.
I've been keeping a journal since I was 11. You'll always find it with me.
I'm also an Elemental Space Clearer and ritual-leader. More about that here.
I grew up on a cattle ranch in a town called Horsefly. Really.
I work with high school students on the side and it keeps me connected to their reality.
I've had silver hair since my 30’s.
In Our Time Together
You will be deeply seen and heard in all your perfectly imperfect humanness.
You will finally deactivate those triggers and clear the way for more grounded parenting.
You will receive expert support as you practice, struggle and try again, until you feel your new way of parenting alive and rooted in you.
You will be guided to new levels of self-awareness, self-compassion and calm.
You will create the ease and connection in your relationship that, so far, you’ve only been able to dream about.
You will be held in sacred space.
You will amaze yourself.
My Invitation to You
If this feels like what you need to finally stop anxiety from driving your parenting, I invite you to a complimentary call to get a taste of my coaching.
You can tell me a bit about what's got you looking for a guide and I'll help you gain some insight on it.
That's it, no obligation and no sales pitch.
And if we discover that we'd be a good fit to work more in depth together, it would be my privilege to guide you into a new relationship with yourself and your teen or young adult child.