Hello and welcome.
I’m passionate about helping frustrated, heartbroken, worried mothers who are afraid they’re losing their relationship with their teen or young adult child. I guide them to discover and activate new parts of themselves and build an even more accepting, harmonious connection with their kid.
How I got here
Have you ever tried to climb a wet, muddy slope and found yourself sliding backwards?
That’s how I used to feel when trying to get unstuck and change beliefs and habits that clearly weren’t working for me. I'd be in a workshop or gathering and some words would all of a sudden turn a page for me. Or a silent sacred moment illuminated something I’d never seen before. You know that kind of moment. A door opened and what I needed to do next was right there in front of me.
Then I went home and set things up to make it happen. And it did… for a while. Then I slowly slid back into my old way. It was so frustrating and disheartening - it made me think there was something wrong with me.
That’s when I decided I would learn how to really make a life change – so I was actually doing it in my day-to-day life and actually experiencing a different way of being.
The other problem I encountered back then was that, when I was in a workshop, therapy or some other ‘talk’ process, I craved more spirit and energy in it. And when I was in ceremonies, healings or circles, I needed more talking and processing.
Surely, I thought, there had to be a middle ground, a perfect combination. I set out to find it.
What I learned
What I learned, and then developed, is a unique approach to personal change that fills these gaps. My approach represents the consolidation of my expertise in Integral coaching and energy channeling, my experience in parenting and that of all the parents I’ve connected with, and my own 30-year journey of self-development.
I chose Integral coaching because it's one of the few methods that honors all of you – body, mind, heart and soul – and takes you all the way through the change you’re making. More than just seeing it but actually doing it and going forward in your life in a new way. As an embodied Integral Master coach, I have deep capacity in seeing you, where you are and where you want to go, along with the skills and presence to guide you on that tender journey.
I am also a long-time ritual maker and energy channeler. I help you activate the unseen energies that shine light onto the important change you’re making. This enables the loving release of your completed/outdated pattern (the nagging, worrying, enforcing, resenting) back into the universe while your new way of parenting emerges from within you, where it already exists and awaits your discovery.
Deeply rooted, holistic coaching within a sacred container.
It’s hard to make a change on your own when you're enmeshed in a certain way of parenting every day. Maybe you've been doing it for decades. It's pulsing along your neural connectors and woven into the fibers of your heart. You can't just snap your fingers and make it disappear.
But you definitely can release an old pattern and cultivate a new way of being with your kid.
"All through motherhood, I’d been flipping back and forth between being a pushover and a hardliner and never able to find a balance. I didn’t realize the effect it had on my kids until my teenage daughter said she couldn’t trust me or how I would react to things. It hurt so bad but she was right... My work with Lori stirred my soul and gave me the strength to find a balance (MY balance) and start living that way. It was weird at first but now I feel really steady in how I am with my kids and it has brought us closer together. It feels so great to be able to write these words!"
Ariel C, Virginia
"This process was like getting new glasses. I can see things about myself that were fuzzy before and that has had a huge impact on how I look at my son and how I communicate with him. Before coaching, I was afraid of making our relationship worse. I felt trapped. With Lori’s patience and guidance, I gave myself room to release my fear of losing him. That brought out a part of me that could create a more honest relationship with him. We are both feeling the shift. If you want to make a REAL change, Lori’s going to take you there."
But you wanted to know more about me...
Well, I used to be an anxious, controlling, perfectionistic parent.
Believe me when I tell you that I’ve seen the look on my kid’s face when I’ve yelled something completely unforgivable. I’ve caught myself behaving more like my mother than who I am and what I believe. I been to the harrowing edge of almost losing my teenager. And I've felt sick about screwing up the greatest privilege in my life.
These days, I’m a pretty composed, confident mother. I’m not a perfect parent (believe me, if do-overs were a thing…). But I’m certain that working on my own inner development was the best gift I could have given my kids.
Each time I caught myself yelling at my kids, dismissing them or wanting things to be different, it was an opportunity to heal my childhood wounds, reexamine stories I had about myself and take another step toward becoming the mother I longed to be.
Everyone has their own learning path; mine has included Indigenous elders, qigong, human development theories, shamanic ceremonies, ecstatic dance, walking the wheel of the year and spending a lot of time with the spirit of the land.
The more attuned I became to the core of who I really am, the more I could see and accept who my kids really are. That’s when I felt myself stepping confidently and calmly into the uncharted role of being a parent to these two amazing souls.
To have a strong relationship with your kids as they grow up,
you need to be growing too.
Some tidbits about me:
I grew up on a cattle ranch in a small town called Horsefly. Really.
I love being in the mountains. It's the air that feels right in my lungs, my soul’s home.
I’m an Enneagram type 9w1, born on the Taurus/Gemini cusp. My bedside table holds the Rumi Oracle, a mookaite crystal and my trusty journal.
I'm an elemental space clearer, energy channeler and a ritual-leader (read more here).
I tutor high school students on the side - it keeps me connected to their worldview.
I’ve been downsizing and decluttering since 2019 - living with less gives me a sense of simplicity and peace.
I've had silver hair since my 30’s.
Why I work with parents
The arena of parenting coaching is rife with half-trained helpers and millionaire experts. But a parent goes looking for help when things are rough and, to me, it’s downright unethical the way they are overcharged and misled to believe that someone else knows better.
That’s why I’m over here, quietly helping parents like you sort through their thorny messes and cultivate their own way of parenting their beloved child. I want you to build your relationship with your kid in a way that truly works for you and them.
I have a vision in which kids in their teens and twenties are supported to find the beat of their own hearts and follow their own passions. They’re encouraged by their families and communities to become the genuine, kind, brilliant, creative beings that our world needs.
And this requires us, as parents and caregivers, to face ourselves and do the work - the essential inner work - to be able to support them to really shine their lights and share their gifts.
To me, this is the way to Peace, one heart and one family at a time.
Peace in your parenting comes from within.
Step into the journey that will change the rest of your life.
If this feels like it might be just what you need right now, I invite you to a complimentary coaching session so you can get to know me and my style.
You can tell me about the issue that’s got you looking for support and I'll help you gain some insight and traction on what's most important to you right now.
That's it. No obligation and no sales pitch, I promise.
And if we discover that we'd be a good fit to work more in depth together, it would be my privilege to guide you as you step into your new way of parenting.