Your way of parenting isn't working anymore -
not with this kid, not in this situation.
There’s a widening gap in your relationship with your teen or young adult child and you’re afraid you’re losing them.
But you’re also so very tired of heated battles and silent stand-offs.
You’re here because you're longing to feel some peace in your parenting and build a mutually respectful, accepting relationship that will stand the test of time.
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You knew there'd be ups and downs when your kids got into their teens and twenties but you also expected to hang out and that your bonds would grow stronger and deeper.
But now, you’re on shaky ground and you lie awake wondering where you went wrong. There’s a perpetual knot in your gut saying that you screwed up parenting.
Maybe you've been here...
You spend hours rehearsing what to say or deciding whether to say anything at all. Even asking how their day was could provoke a snarly attack. Or they roll their eyes and walk away, leaving you crushed again.
You worry. A lot. You wake up worrying about what’s really going on in their lives. You worry about the choices they’re making and who’s influencing them. Maybe it has driven you to text them too often, read their diary or follow their friends on Insta. And when you try to relax, it all keeps spinning and churning.
The more you try to communicate, the more it drives them away. It’s so so so frustrating and - you’re not proud of it - sometimes you explode, plead, yell, threaten, give them the silent treatment, get heavy-handed… The distance between you two feels like a widening chasm and you don’t know how to get through to them.
You’re entangled in their lives and not in a good way. When your kid is anxious and miserable, you absorb it all and then you’re anxious and miserable. You’re pushed and pulled in so many directions that you can’t get centered and follow through with your intentions.
You feel like you should know what to do. And when you don’t, which is most of the time, it’s embarrassing and disheartening.
The Bottom Line:
You can see where this relationship is headed and it’s not looking good.
It feels like it’s now or never if you’re going to get it back on track.
There's another way
Although things are messed up right now, there is a way to shift out of all this tension and into a comfortable, solid relationship with your young adult child.
You can break free from those triggers and patterns that automatically take over and make everything worse. Goodbye overwhelm and overreaction.
You can learn new ways of connecting with your kid, even if they seem unreachable right now, so that you both feel seen and heard. You can even walk through your own kitchen without risking a battle.
You can definitely parent without the weight of so much worry, frustration, anxiety and heartache.
You can finally develop a way of parenting that's aligned with who you are and what’s most important to you. A way that feels good right down inside.
That’s what I call ‘Peace in your Parenting’.
Let's honour all the work you’ve done to get this far.
You’ve given a lot of love and weathered many challenges. Please take a breath here and feel that in your heart.
You’ve probably watched some webinars and read some books, but maybe it didn’t feel right trying to apply generic solutions to one of the most precious relationships in your life.
And I’m guessing that you’ve done some inner work, maybe energy healing, therapy, reiki, yoga retreats or ceremonies. But you couldn’t translate what you learned into your daily interactions with your kid - so it just fizzled out.
You’re not alone.
"Before this, we were barely talking and when we did, it usually ended in screaming and slamming doors. I felt like I was falling backwards as a parent and I was lost and scared. But within weeks of starting coaching, I could already feel myself getting some footing... The changes in me have changed how my son and I talk to each other. It makes my heart sing every day."
F Glenn, Edmonton
"This was an amazing experience, much more than I expected from coaching. I hoped to get some new ways of dealing with my overwhelm but instead, I discovered a whole new part of myself and we worked to bring it alive. Lori was so attuned with where I’m at in my own journey as a woman and as a mother. She guided me on a very personal process that makes the change in me feel permanent. I love the way I’m being a mother now.”
May H, Idaho Falls
Parenting teens and young adults is complicated.
And it’s difficult to make real, permanent changes in your parenting because you’re in the middle of it. You can’t get a clear view of the situation - there’s you and them, all the tension between you, and all that’s going on inside of you. No wonder you’re having trouble seeing what to do.
There’s no two ways about it: parenting brings up your stuff. Your kid gives you a certain look and the parts of you that you’ve been working so hard on are instantly amplified. Old pain bubbles to the surface and, before you know it, you’ve over-reacted again.
In the midst of all this, you come face to face with the parenting patterns you inherited from your parents. They’re deeply ingrained and not just erased with a flick of the wrist. You need help to disentangle these patterns and find the 'off’ switch.
Finally, there’s all the expectations – from yourself, your family, society - of what it’s ‘supposed’ to be like raising kids in their teens and twenties. The ‘shoulds’ weigh you down and send your mind and your heart in all different directions trying to get it right.
It’s hard to see a path forward when you’re stumbling up against such tender, complex issues.
It’s hard to find peace when you’re in the middle of the chaos.
You don’t need another parenting prescription.
You need a way to explore the corners of your own heart and soul so you can make an internal shift and grow into a new relationship with your child.
How to Work with Me
The Compass Session
Illuminating what you can't see right now and opening a new way forward.
Sometimes you need someone to cut through the fog and shine new light on your parenting path.
And you need it Right Now.
This powerful session gets you over the barrier you're currently stumbling up against and sets you off in a direction that's aligned with who you are and how you want to be parenting.
Fresh perspective and practical tools, so you can take your next step with peace, clarity and confidence.
The Transformation Program
A customized journey that will be one of the major turning points in your life.
2 to 9 months
You can feel it - it's time to make a significant shift in yourself and how you parent.
This program takes you on a deep but gentle dive to release the ingrained pattern that keeps getting in the way of really connecting with your kid.
You move past the stuck places and bring forth new parts of yourself that create connection and peace.
Expect to embody a new way of being that will profoundly alter how you parent.