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Your way of parenting isn't working anymore -
not with this kid, not in this situation.​​​​​​
There’s a widening gap in your relationship with your teen or young adult child and you’re afraid you’re losing them.
You’re exhausted by all the heated battles and silent stand-offs, and you need some relief. ​​​
You’re longing to feel some peace in your parenting, just some ordinary, uncharged conversations with your kid and to build a warm, mutually respectful relationship that will stand the test of time.
Photo by Lori Walters
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My kid doesn't listen to me.
It doesn’t matter whether I’m trying to get them to do the dishes or just sharing my opinion, they just won’t hear it from me. I feel unappreciated and disrespected.
I’ve become a worrier and a micro-manager. Did you remember this? Did you take care of that? I know I should give them space, but I can't just wait around doing nothing. I don’t want to be a half-hearted parent.
But my guts are tense with all this worry and I get headaches trying to anticipate what they’ll need and calculate whether I should help or not. Sometimes I get over-involved and then they accuse me of not believing in them. That's not the kind of parent I want to be either.
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I can't ever say the right thing.
It’s so frustrating. No matter how much I try to decode their behaviour, rehearse my lines and wait for exactly the right moment to raise an issue, it almost always goes badly.
I’m calmly trying to talk about car-sharing and the next minute my daughter is yelling that I’m being too picky and trying to run her life. Then I get defensive and end up saying things so differently from the way I'd planned.
This has been going on for months and it's weighing me down. Some days, I just give up, walk away and leave it for another day. But the right day doesn't seem to come and I never say what I really want to say. I feel utterly deflated.
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My son won’t talk to me.
Some days, I just brace myself for the icy silence. I try to be understanding about the hormones and emotions and just be patient, but I hate not knowing what's really going on for him. Other days, I try to start a conversation but even asking ‘how was your day’ can make him head for his room. I don’t know how to get through to him.
It breaks my heart that we don’t feel close and that he doesn't confide in me and let me help him figure things out. Sometimes, I end up kinda pleading. I know that isn’t sending the right message, but I just want to know that he’s ok.
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And sometimes I feel really angry too. I mean, I don't deserve a jerk slamming the door in my face. So, I bang on his door and say things I immediately regret. Or, I hate to admit, I go away fuming, “I’ll show him what being shut out feels like...”
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I absorb all their feelings.
I feel like I’m constantly being tossed around on the waves of their emotions. One minute, I'm having a great day and the next, I've been robbed of my peace and joy and I'm caught up in their angst. I try to stay in my own lane and uphold my boundaries but I must be doing it wrong.
I shouldn't have to live on constant alert. They phone or walk into the room with their panic or rage and it hits me like tidal wave. I can't see which way is up. I’m just trying to stay afloat and have no idea how to be a good parent in these situations. I feel like I'm going to fall apart if I don’t find my balance and peace of mind.
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If this sounds like you, you're in the right place.
You can exhale now :)
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There is another way.
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Although things feel messed up right now, there is a way to shift out of this tension.
You can develop a new level of steadiness in yourself so that, even when you land in unfamiliar territory, you do and say what you really mean. Instead of being overwhelmed and overreacting, you’re grounded and clear.
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You can learn new ways of communicating with them so that you both feel seen and heard.
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You can ride the waves of emotions without being pulled under and be supportive without taking on what’s not yours to carry.
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You can become confident in your ability to navigate whatever comes next.
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You can regain your lightheartedness. You know, actually enjoy walking alongside them as they launch their adult lives.
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You can develop a way of parenting that's aligned with who you are and what you believe.
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A way that feels good deep down inside.
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​That’s what I call ‘Peace in your Parenting’.
Before we go any further,
let's honour all the work you’ve done to get this far.
You’ve given a lot of love and weathered many challenges. Can I invite you to pause here and feel that accomplishment in your heart? Parenting is tough and you’ve stayed in.
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You’ve probably gone to webinars and workshops and read books, but it didn’t feel right trying to apply those generic solutions to one of the most precious relationships in your life.
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You’ve also done some inner work, maybe energy healing, therapy, reiki, yoga retreats or spiritual ceremonies. You became more aware of your triggers and had some important insights, but they didn’t quite translate into your daily interactions with your kid.
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"We were barely talking and when we did, it usually ended in screaming and slamming doors. I felt like I was falling backwards as a parent. I was lost and scared. But within weeks of starting my coaching journey with you, I could already feel myself getting my footing.​.. The changes in me amaze me. They've changed how my son and I talk to each other. It makes my heart sing every day."
F Glenn, Edmonton
"This was an amazing experience, much more than I expected. I'd hoped to get some new ways of dealing with my anxiousness but instead, I discovered a whole new part of myself. Lori was so attuned with where I am in my own journey as a woman and as a mother. She guided me on a very personal process that makes the change in me feel permanent. I love the way I’m being a mother now.”
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May H, Idaho Falls
You don’t need another parenting prescription.
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You need a way to explore the corners of your own heart and soul and make an internal shift so you can grow into a new relationship with your child.
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How to Work with Me
The Compass Session
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Illuminating the problem that’s front and center for you right now and opening a new way forward.
2 hours
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Sometimes you need someone to cut through the fog and shine some light on your parenting path.
And you need it right now.
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This powerful session gets you over the barrier you're stumbling up against in your parenting and sets you off in a direction that's aligned with who you are and how you really want to be parenting.
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Fresh perspective and practical tools, so you can take your next parenting step with peace, clarity and confidence.
The Transformation Program
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A customized journey that will be one of the major turning points in your life.
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2 to 9 months
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You can feel that it's time to make a significant shift in yourself and how you parent.
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This program takes you on a gentle, deep dive to release the ingrained pattern that keeps getting in the way of staying steady and really
connecting with your kid.
You'll bring forth new parts of yourself that can parent calmly, confidently and consciously.
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Expect to embody a new way of being that will profoundly alter how you parent.