Your way of parenting isn't working anymore -
not with this kid, not in this situation.
There’s a widening gap in your relationship with your teen or young adult child and you’re afraid you’re losing them.
But you’re also so very tired of heated battles and silent stand-offs.
You’re here because you're longing to feel some peace in your parenting and build a mutually respectful, accepting relationship that will stand the test of time.
Photo by Lori Walters
You knew there'd be ups and downs when your kids got into their teens and twenties but you also expected to hang out and that your bonds would grow stronger and deeper.
But now, you’re on shaky ground and you lie awake wondering where you went wrong. There’s a perpetual knot in your gut saying that you screwed up parenting.
Maybe you've been here...
You spend hours rehearsing what to say or deciding whether to say anything at all. Even asking how their day was could provoke a snarly attack. Or they roll their eyes and walk away, leaving you crushed again.
You worry. A lot. You wake up worrying about what’s really going on in their lives. You worry about the choices they’re making and who’s influencing them. Maybe it has driven you to text them too often, read their diary or follow their friends on Insta. And when you try to relax, it all keeps spinning and churning.
The more you try to communicate, the more it drives them away. It’s so so so frustrating and - you’re not proud of it - sometimes you explode, plead, yell, threaten, give them the silent treatment, get heavy-handed… The distance between you two feels like a widening chasm and you don’t know how to get through to them.
You’re entangled in their lives and not in a good way. When your kid is anxious and miserable, you absorb it all and then you’re anxious and miserable. You’re pushed and pulled in so many directions that you can’t get centered and follow through with your intentions.
You feel like you should know what to do. And when you don’t, which is most of the time, it’s embarrassing and disheartening.
The Bottom Line:
You can see where this relationship is headed and it’s not looking good.
It feels like it’s now or never if you’re going to get it back on track.
There's another way
Although things are messed up right now, there is a way to shift out of all this tension and into a comfortable, solid relationship with your young adult child.
You can break free from those triggers and patterns that automatically take over and make everything worse. Goodbye overwhelm and overreaction.
You can learn new ways of connecting with your kid, even if they seem unreachable right now, so that you both feel seen and heard. You can even walk through your own kitchen without risking a battle.
You can definitely parent without the weight of so much worry, frustration, anxiety and heartache.
You can finally develop a way of parenting that's aligned with who you are and what’s most important to you. A way that feels good right down inside.
That’s what I call ‘Peace in your Parenting’.
Let's honour all the work you’ve done to get this far.
You’ve given a lot of love, weathered many challenges and done a pile of personal growth. (Please take a breath here and feel that in your heart.)
You’re dedicated to parenting, so you’ve probably watched some webinars and read some books, but maybe it didn’t feel right trying to apply generic solutions to one of the most precious relationships in your life.
And I’m guessing that you’ve done some inner work, maybe therapy, energy healing, retreats or reiki, but you couldn’t translate it into your daily interactions with your kid - so it just fizzled out.
You’re not alone. It was the same for me. I kept trying to figure out what I was doing wrong and fix it.
Parenting teens and young adults is exceptionally complicated.
And it’s difficult to make real, permanent changes in your parenting because you’re in the middle of it. You can’t get a clear view of the situation - there’s you and them, all the tension between you, and all that’s going on inside of you. No wonder you’re having trouble seeing what to do.
There’s no two ways about it: parenting brings up your stuff. Your kid gives you a certain look and the parts of you that you’ve been working so hard on are instantly amplified. Old pain bubbles to the surface and, before you know it, you’ve over-reacted again.
In the midst of all this, you come face to face with the parenting patterns you inherited from your parents. They’re deeply ingrained and not just erased with a flick of the wrist. You need help to disentangle these patterns and find the 'off’ switch.
Finally, there’s all the expectations – from yourself, your family, society - of what it’s ‘supposed’ to be like raising kids in their teens and twenties. The ‘shoulds’ weigh you down and send your mind and your heart in all different directions trying to get it right.
It’s hard to see a path forward when you’re stumbling up against such tender, complex issues.
It’s hard to find peace when you’re in the middle of the chaos.
"Before this, my son and I were barely talking and when we did, it usually ended in screaming and slamming doors. I felt like I was falling backwards as a parent and I was scared. But within weeks of starting coaching, I could already feel myself getting some footing... The changes in me have changed how my son and I talk to each other. It makes my heart sing every day."
F Glenn, Edmonton
"This was an amazing experience, much more than I'd expected from coaching. I thought I’d get some new ways of dealing with my overwhelm but instead, I discovered a whole new part of myself and worked to bring it alive. Lori was so attuned with where I’m at in my own journey as a woman and as a mother. She guided me on a very personal process that makes the change in me feel permanent. I love the way I’m being a mother now.”
May H, Idaho Falls
You don’t need another parenting prescription.
You need a way to explore the corners of your own heart and soul so you can shift into a new relationship with your child.
IN OUR TIME TOGETHER...
We will get to the core of what’s going on for you and uproot what’s been getting in the way of your ability to parent with balance, intention and composure.
You will be deeply seen and heard in all your perfectly imperfect humanness.
I will teach you how to catch your ingrained habits in the act, break out of old patterns and deactivate your triggers.
You will take carefully designed steps, week by week, to develop the capabilities you need to attain the ease and connection that, so far, you’ve only been able to imagine.
I will guide you to new levels of self-awareness, acceptance and calm.
You will receive deep compassion and expert support as you practice, mess up and try again, until you feel your new way of parenting alive and steady in you.
I will hold sacred space for your transformation and help you mark the milestones of your journey in deeply meaningful ways.
You will laugh, cry and be amazed.
What’s involved in a coaching program?
We meet online twice a month.
Sessions are 75 minutes.
In between our sessions, you engage in meaningful, custom-designed, daily practices (5-15 min) that hone your new capabilities. This isn't your typical "homework" - it's you gradually learning how to show up in your life differently.
Within weeks, you start responding differently in those previously impossible parenting situations and feel the beginnings of a meaningful shift within yourself.
Is this right for you?
You'll experience powerful results from my coaching if
You're open-minded and open-hearted about exploring what needs to shift in you (and understand that this is not about 'fixing' your kid).
You're comfortable delving beneath the surface and going to the heart of things.
You can commit to trying different things and practicing every day to discover what really aligns with you.
You're excited to discover and embody new aspects of yourself.
"I am finally being me and parenting my way and it feels like this is how it was meant to be. The cold unspoken resentment between my daughter and I is slowly fading and we’re building something new together. And that’s worth gold! Lori is a very kind, wise, skillful guide and I’m recommending her to every parent I know.”
Benita Lang, Toronto
"I didn’t realize the effect it had on my kids until my daughter said she couldn’t trust me or how I would react to things. It hurt so badly but she was right - I was always anxious. My work with Lori helped me find my balance and start living that way. I feel steady now when I'm with my kids and it has brought us closer together. I'm amazed and grateful to be able to write these words!"
Ariel C, Virginia
Two 75-minute virtual coaching sessions each month.
A summary of your primary developmental objectives and instructions for customized practices that gain you traction in the places that are most important for you to work on.
A map to guide you forward after your coaching program.
$300 USD per month
There is a minimum commitment of 2 months so you experience some results. Beyond that, you can cancel at any time. Most of my clients work with me for 5-7 months to experience a deeper transformation and embodiment of their new way of parenting.
And yes, I'm consciously choosing to charge less than other parenting coaches with my experience. I believe that every parent of young adults should have access to some expert help when they need it most, so I set my prices with accessibility in mind.
"I’m so proud of the work I’ve done with you. I was so enmeshed in the dynamic with my 20-yr-old that I didn’t know if I could actually get out of it, but you were always there to help me find my next step. There is a new peace in me feeling this connection between my soul purpose, my role as a mother and how I am with my child."
MLK, Monterey, Ca
"The time I spent working with Lori was a bright turning point in my life. I became a different kind of mother and it set my relationship with my son on a whole new course. This was deep work that touched my heart and soul and moved me forward on my life journey. Lori's talents are beautiful and powerful."
Jillian S., Melbourne, AUS
My Vision for You
You are free from looping through the same problem again and again. Your old triggers are neutralized and you respond differently in those previously impossible situations.
You see your child with fresh eyes and feel a stronger connection with them. As one client put it, “I fell in love with my daughter all over again.”
The way you're parenting feels right in your body, mind, heart and soul. It has you trusting your instincts and honouring what’s most important to you. You feel grounded and at peace with how you're interacting with your young adult child.
Photo by Lori Walters
Growing as a parent is beautiful and messy,
graceful and awkward,
sacred and earthly.
I walk right beside you through all of it - the wonderful a-ha’s and the inevitable stumbles - with expertise and deep care for you and your personal transformation.
Expect to go away embodying new ways of being that will profoundly alter how you parent.
Peace in my Parenting
Complimentary Coaching Session
This is your opportunity to experience my style and see what it's like to work with a master parenting coach.
You'll tell me a bit about what’s bringing you to coaching and I'll help you gain some insight and traction on what's most important to you right now.
You and I both know that some coaches try to lure you in with a free call to upsell you or pressure you into deciding. But that's not my approach. I respect the fact that you need some help and I'm willing to give you just that. There will be no sales talk, I promise.
In the end, I may or may not be the coach that's right for you. If it doesn't feel like a good fit for you, that's ok. You'll leave with some new clarity and energy for going forward.
And if you feel like you want to work more deeply with me, then we'll set up another call to talk about the logistics.