Is This For You?
You’re parenting consciously. Not perfectly, but as best you can.
There's a wedge growing between you and your teen/young adult kid. And you know it's partly because of your own behaviour.
Deep in your heart is a longing for a relationship that has more trust, acceptance and harmony.
You might find yourself in one or more of these stories:
~ There has been a lot of conflict with your son and you’re working on being a better listener. Some of the things he has to say are hard to hear but, in some of your conversations, you’re able to stay quiet and listen. Other times, you get upset and impatient and it turns into what your son would call another lecture and he walks away. You can’t seem to find a way to give him guidance that he doesn’t ignore or reject.
~ You have been making progress toward having calmer conversations with your teen daughter but still, more than half the time, they end with both of you yelling, crying and slamming doors. You usually feel your emotions rising but you can’t head them off. These blow ups are exhausting and, bit by bit, creating a chasm between you two. You don’t want to end up shut out of her life and it feels like you’re running out of time.
~ You're lost in foreign territory. There has been a major shift in your child's mental health and you don't know how to be with their anxiety or depression. You want to be supportive but you feel your own fears steering your words and actions. It's not helping and it feels like the ground is slipping out from under you. You're grasping for ways to stay present and resourceful in this precarious situation.
~ You sincerely want to be present and available to your kids but, when they come to you, you end up barking at them or brushing them off. You see your own parents in these moments and you promise yourself you’ll have time with them later… Mostly, you are deeply disappointed because you’re going through the motions of being a good parent but you don’t feel like you’re really ‘in’ relationship with your kids.
~ You just want your daughter to take advantage of all the wonderful opportunities out there and have a fulfilling life. But she’s not very enthusiastic and doesn’t understand the consequences of her choices. You try to motivate her but, no matter how you say it, your encouragement comes across like criticism. She says you don’t respect her for who she is and that’s the last thing in the world you want her to feel.
~ You’ve fallen into the habit of doing too much for your kids – taking care of little things, anticipating difficulties, solving problems, smoothing they way for them. They are regularly rolling their eyes behind your back but you can't help yourself. You want to relax and let them learn for themselves but, when you back off, you can hear the voices of your friends, colleagues or family saying you're not doing your job as a parent.
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My coaching program will bring real results for you if
You are a dedicated parent or caregiver of a teen or young adult.
You’re willing to try new things, mess up, learn, tweak and practice in order to shift the trajectory you're on.
You’re an imperfectly perfect work in progress. You’ve done some inner work and you’re aware that something within you needs to change now. You're willing to let go of old self-defeating habits and beliefs about who you are.
You see parenting as a gift, an honour and a sacred responsibility to help them shine their light in the world.
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Before we go any farther, you should know that I'm not going to be the right coach for you if:
you want to snap your fingers and solve this in a week
you want to "fix" your son or daughter's attitude or behaviour
you want someone to just tell you the right thing to do
I work with parents who are longing to make changes within themselves and cultivate a new way of connecting with their kids.
A way that aligns with their heart and soul.
A way that inspires communication and builds acceptance.
A way into deeper love with their kids.
If this sounds like you, it would be my honor to guide you there.